You should never depend on anybody else for anything in life- they will inevitably let u down. Should never consult anybody for an opinion- they don’t really care. Should never ask anyone if they’re doing something so that you can do it together- they always change their mind. Apna koi nahi hota. Sab paraey hain yahan.
Everybody in this world has their own set of friends. Every single person has a ‘best friend’. And when times change- and your friends don’t have time to hang out with you anymore, never stop to invite/wait for them. Don’t try to re-live the past moments. Don’t stay there in hope of them coming back to the golden days. They won’t. As we move ahead in life, so do friends. In today’s world, you cannot expect to have friends for life. Accept that. Move ahead, meet new people. It’s a whole new world out there. There are soo many great friends to make. One should never be too old to make new friends, cause old ones don’t really last. It’s all idealism. Once you find the newer ones, you’ll wish you had met them before- and then there’s no time- life’s next destination is here already, and it’s gonna lead elsewhere. You already know you’re going to be left alone- again. Don’t panic- it’ll be a whole new world- again.
Emotional intelligence is such a powerful thing. I think it’s a more important quality to have than a great I.Q. I was recently very pleasantly surprised by a friend’s emotional maturity. It’s always easy to give in and do what’s on your mind, but to pause, analyse, and reconsider- even forgive. I think forgiveness is the most divine of all emotion. Only those at higher levels of emotional maturity can actually forgive. In totality. How can you make out if a person is emotionally intelligent or not- in a first meeting? Gandhiji had said that one should judge a person’s character by being a witness to his interaction with people of a lower grade/class. Is that emotional intelligence too?
These days I’m looking to understand the differences- in the habits and behaviour- between a Brahmin and a ‘non-brahmin’. I’m curious. I want to know what difference our age old system of discrimination has made to our respective lives. It’s not about good or bad- it’s not about right or wrong- it’s about the difference. What are they? Similarly, what are the differences- in habits and behaviour- between a rich man and a middle class man?
